Toya Carter Talks Relationships In Rolling Out Magazine

Toya Carter covers this moths issue of Rolling Out magazine. Inside, she discussed everything from motherhood to holding her own and why men need to step up their game. 

Check out the excerpts and a few pics below:

On holding her own

People thought Tiny and I were gong to do a baby momma show. They only knew that I was married to Lil Wayne. But once we did season 2, they knew more about me. My life has changed, and I’m more in the public’s eye. I hear from people who are inspired by my story. I didn’t do the show to bash Lil Wayne or be labeled the mother of his first child. I will always be attached to him, but I’m doing things to better myself such as the TV show, my book and opening a clothing store. 

On women in relationships

I just feel like women just go so hard. They give their all so fast. They give 100 [percent] and don’t get that in return. Relationships [are] supposed to be equal. A lot of women didn’t grow up with the affection from their dad. So, when they find a man, they expect that man to give that to them.They look for love in all the wrong places. They never had their fathers around to say, I love you, and you’re beautiful. So, the first man to tell them, I love you, and you’re beautiful, they fall for it. That’s the biggest problem. They throw themselves on a man all the time and say, I got him. That [doesn't] work. 

On her daughter being “grown”

When you have kids at a young age, your kids tend to grow up with you. So, as I was learning, she was learning, which is why she is wise beyond her years. People see my daughter and say, She is so grown. We were learning together. I couldn’t just put her off on everybody. That didn’t stop me from being a mother. I told her when she was born, I’m going to give you all I didn’t have and more.Love your kids listen to them, hear them out. People say, If you didn’t have it, you can’t give it, but that’s not true. I didn’t have [anybody], but I’m trying to be there for my daughter. talk to me because I didn’t have [anyone] to talk to. 

On men needing to be more respectful and stepping up their game

Men have to be more respectful. This generation is just so disrespectful. They think it’s corny to open a door for a woman and just be polite. What goes around comes around. What you put out, you will get back.